7 Principles for Creating a Life You Love

Are you living the life you want to live right now? Are you happy with your job? Your relationships? Your friends? Your appearance? Do you look forward to working up day after day? Do you have positive thoughts about life? Oooooh do you? Because your thoughts are a core factor in creating a life you love. 


I grew up in Detroit in a middle class family as an only child raised by mother. I had what I needed, but the thrills and frills were far and few between. It seemed like my friends always had more material possessions than I did, but I had a strong spiritual foundation. I knew not to be jealous, but instead to be inspired and direct my energy towards figuring out how to attract the life I desired to live. Even as a teenager, I felt like I couldn’t depend on anyone outside of myself to create the life I wanted. 


I clearly remember the first time I was introduced to the power to manifest what I wanted in my life. In high school, I started attending a nondenominational church called Transforming Love Community, founded by Reverend Shaheerah Stephens. “Rev” as we called her, was doing a service on Manifestation. She taught about Divine Substance and referred to Faith as the substance of things hoped for. Her connection of faith with substance allowed me to see my hopes go from thoughts to physical form. Since my teenage years, I have written down my goals, hopes and dreams and even in going back through old journals to write this post, I am amazed by how accurately what I hoped for manifested into my life. 


It’s not just about hoping, wishing or asking, there’s work to in creating a mind that is fertile ground for a happy and fulfilling life. Here are 7 principles for creating the life you love. 


  1. Have Faith—I won’t tell you what your faith should be, but I will tell you that you have to faith in something or someone in order to manifest what you want. Faith is the foundation. I identify as a spiritual person. I respect the universal laws that coexist through Christianity, Buddhism, Islam and other religions and believe that it’s more important to be a good person with a good heart than pray to the same God that I do. My faith is in God. I walk by faith and not by sight, so even when things don’t look the way I want them to, I can feel beyond that place and act in expectation of my highest and best good. I believe, God is the Creator and by being aware of the God in me, I am a Co-Creator. 
  2. Define Your Purpose—I believe that each and everyone of us is here for a reason. We all have a purpose and that purpose lies in our natural abilities and the things we love to do. Get clear about your purpose and build your career around your purpose so you love what you do! We spend so much of our time working, so doing what you love will play a major part in creating a life you love.  Defining your purpose makes everyday worth living and makes our lives happy and full.
  3. Think Positive Thoughts—Our thoughts are so powerful! We can create a miracle or a nightmare from our mere perspective. Our faith and purpose help keep direct our thoughts positive. If you know what you want in life, you’ll focus more of your thoughts on what you want than what you don’t want. What you think about expands. The more you focus your thoughts on the things in your life that are working, the better they will work. It’s natural to have negative thoughts sometimes, but it’s important to not become attached to those negative thoughts. Let them pass. When I need help directing my thoughts in a positive and productive direction, I search for a good book or lecture on a topic of interest to me. Reading or listening to a good book adds new thoughts upon which I can focus. 
  4. Let go of the past—At any given time, you can free yourself from past mistakes, habits and circumstances by forgiving yourself and others and deciding to move forward. Say to yourself, “From this point on, I no longer ________” filling in the blank with whatever you are leaving behind. When you know better, you do better. Commit to living a better life and do not give any more power to a past that does not serve you! If you need help doing this, go to church, see a therapists, talk to a friend, but do what you must to free yourself from your past. 
  5. Define Your Ideal—Make goals, do a vision board, make lists, write in your journal! Get clear about what you want this week, this month, this year and this life. If you are not satisfied with the things you have, define the things you want. Define your ideal home, body, bank account, mate, friends, job, lifestyle….all of that! As you define your ideal, you will change your beliefs and bring about the necessary changes to create and receive your ideal. 
  6. Surround Yourself with Positivity—Who are you spending time with? What are you paying attention to? Motivational speaker, Jim Rohn says we are a sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with. Your circle of friends are a reflection of you. If you hang out with a bunch of folks you find yourself complaining about or gossiping about their mess, your issues are much deeper than theirs and you should look into why you’ve attracted such people in your life. If a relationship no longer serves you, let it go. Be careful about the music you listen to, the things you watch on television, etc. The people you spend the most time with, the images you see, the words you hear, all seep into your subconscious. Sometimes you need to turn off the news. Watching negative stories about a negative world can make you feel less than happy about your life. Watch more positive programming, pick up a book, learn about things that move you forward in the direction of your dreams and desires. 
  7. Trust the Process—The most effective belief you can have is that the universe is always supporting you in doing what is best for your greatest good. As humans we are perfectly created with all the equipment required to have a life that works perfectly. Things don’t always work as planned and there may be bumps along the way, but trust that things are working out for your highest and best good. If something doesn’t make you happy or feel right, explore what that is 


You have the power to create a life you love! Start where you are, make the changes and the world around you will respond. I promise! Love yourself and love the process. 


Amber Forrester

39Quartz Founder


Amber Forrester